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This one-page resource maps the core longings carried in every human heart—what we were made to receive, and what many of us have spent our lives trying to earn.
From being wanted and cherished to being trusted and invited, these nine longings offer a simple way to recognize what’s beneath our reactions, relationships, and desires.
Whether you’re working through this personally or alongside your spouse, this framework gives language to the deeper places of the heart—and a starting point for healing, clarity, and growth.
Drawn from The Outrider: Become the Man You Needed and the Redeemed Marriage Retreat.
This companion piece to Core Longings of a Beloved Child of God gives voice to the core longings of the heart—not just naming what we desire, but expressing what it sounds like when those desires are met.
Each line is written as a simple, direct message—something to be received, reflected on, and returned to over time.
These messages, when received from Jesus, begin to fulfill the core desires of the heart.
Whether used personally or within marriage, this resource helps move from awareness into experience—allowing truth to be heard, not just understood.
Drawn from The Outrider: Become the Man You Needed and the Redeemed Marriage Retreat.
This resource helps uncover the false messages we’ve mistaken for truth—especially in the places where our core longings have gone unmet.
Through simple, honest questions, it invites you to bring your story before Jesus and listen for what He wants to reveal.
These questions are not all inclusive and aren’t meant to diagnose or define you, but to open a conversation—one that leads toward clarity, healing, and truth.
Whether used personally or within marriage, this guide offers a starting point for recognizing what’s been formed in you, and what God may be restoring.
Drawn from The Outrider: Become the Man You Needed and the Redeemed Marriage Retreat.
This resource explores how the core longings of the heart are formed over time—specifically through the distinct ways sons and daughters receive and respond to them.
Each desire is paired side-by-side, offering a clear picture of how the same longing may be met differently in men and women across Beloved Awakening, Identity, and Authority.
It’s not about comparison, but clarity—helping you recognize how formation has taken shape in your story, and where God may be restoring what was missing.
Whether used personally or within marriage, this guide provides language for deeper understanding, connection, and growth.
This resource explores the false messages that shape the heart—seen through the distinct experiences of sons and daughters.
By placing these questions side-by-side, it brings clarity to how similar longings can be wounded in different ways, helping you recognize patterns that may have formed over time.
It’s not meant to define you, but to guide reflection—inviting you to bring these questions before Jesus and listen for what is true.
Whether used personally or within marriage, this guide creates space for deeper understanding, compassion, and healing.
Drawn from The Outrider: Become the Man You Needed and the Redeemed Marriage Retreat.